It's no secret that I'm actually OVER 30 and married and so far, I have to admit I love married life. I love and adore my husband for so many reasons and I love this partnership, marriage I have. He cooks, I clean. He's playing games on his computer all day and I'm on my Mac or out shopping or watching old dvds.
But after 5 years I have noticed a few differences between being married and in a relationship (in no particular order)
1. whether you like it or not unless you are both orphans/hate parents/don't see family, you're definitely tied into family matters. the good AND the bad. i am very fortunate that I not only get along with my in-laws, but I love them so much and hang out with them. of course this isn't the same for everyone and that's fine, just remember to try and be civil at the least and if you're super mad/pissed off, back off and take a breather. you DON'T want to say something you regret to your in-laws b/c that can last for a very long, long, time.
2. when you are out together, that is what it is, TOGETHER. that means you shouldn't fight/cause scenes in public, make sure each other dresses accordingly to an event (i HATE seeing the woman looking glamorous and the husband in nasty sneakers, ripped t-shirt, and jeans and messy hair; take care of your man!), check up on each other at parties from time to time especially if your other half is shy, and the big thing i want to emphasize and (even for me) is try new things together. Sure, it can be challenging and frustrating but in the long run I feel that it can strengthen a relationship even more when you both achieve something together, or at least encourage each other.
3. you can't go around hugging other men as freely as you want. i'm a VERY affectionate and "huggy" type of person, i always was and still am. i used to greet everyone with a hug and some times even kiss on the cheek. i realized now, you really shouldn't go around hugging single men. my hugs have changed from a "long, good hug" to a "short, 3 second" hug when I greet people.
4. DON'T go displaying your dirty laundry in public. i cannot emphasize this enough! i know, i know girls love to gab and talk and bitch and moan, etc and that's fine but keep it at a minimum. once you start the tale of woe and telling EVERYONE in DETAIL, things get distorted/exaggerated and you know what? People start gossiping and wondering "wow, what a drama couple". you don't want that kind of image right? Again it's fine to let out some steam and bitch to your best girlfriends but don't go writing it up on the papers. Because it will bite you in the ass one day.
5. where is the line between flirting and "going too far?" hmmmm. hahaha (my wicked laugh). i always go by the easy rule, there's nothing wrong with window shopping. i have to admit i'm a big flirt and i really like talking to men, women, and children. i'm a social butterfly. laughing is fine too. you start meeting people and find things you have in common and/or have the same idiosyncrasies. maybe you want to have a cup of coffee or lunch? is that bad? is it okay if both parties are married vs if one is married and the other isn't? where do you draw the line? just because one is 10 years younger than you, is that "okay" b/c he's like a "kid brother" to you? all i can say is two things: one if you think something might "happen" DON'T EVEN START and two be honest with your significant other. i tell Geoff everything b/c I don't want any secrets and surprises and i feel free/not guilty.
This is of course all my opinion and I'm only married 5 years. And for all my single friends out there: being single should be celebrated as well! find out who you are, what you want, travel, try new things, etc. and NEVER settle with someone you think is just "so-so" with or what society assumes you should be with. including your family.
Tuesday, February 26, 2013
Friday, November 2, 2012
Working in service...
I've been working at a coffee shop for now almost 7 months and so far I really like it a lot. I really like my co-workers, my job, most of my customers, and the fun environment. Plus I don't mind having a day off in the middle of the week too. Minus the low wage, I'm really happy at where I am. But of course nothing is perfect and there's definitely some stress that comes with working in a service job. You got your regulars, which I love and then there's everyone else in between as well. See, I've been an office girl since I was about 23 and at 31 in an service job here's what I observed.
a. Why do people look at us like we are stupid? I can assure you we are not because we've been doing this over a year (s) and we've been trained to do what we do. Plus, please don't repeat the order over and over again, I'm not deaf and again I know what I'm doing. (of course if we just started that's a whole other case and you should nod your head and "understand" he/she is new)
b. Just because you're having a shitty day, please don't take it out on us. We work for less than $10/hr and we are humans too. Whatever it may be: two hour meetings, your period, you fought with your bf/gf, can't find your iphone, whatever it may be, please try to understand we just make and serve coffee to you and that's really it. What if at YOUR office/work place someone takes their bad moods out on you? How would you feel? Exactly.
c. Because we are wearing uniform, we like to dress to the nine when we're not. I sometimes envy women who are dressed really nice because I wish I can do that. I guess that's why I go shopping even more and have my closet filled with more clothes I know I won't be wearing any time soon. Plus when we finally do go out for some fun it's like "omg what do we wear??" "i gotta look cute!" when we are just going to the movies, you know in the dark.
d. If we make a mistake it's because it was what it's called a mistake. We are humans, we can make a mistake sometimes. It's not earth shattering and we will have it fixed. Accidents happen and so will mistakes, no one is perfect and not every day is perfect. Again, think about yourself and ask yourself "Have I ever made a mistake at work?" "Have I made an error in judgment at work?". Please try not to be so hard on us, we're doing the best we can to accommodate to you.
These are things I wish others thought about too. I know, I know it's hard to think outside your own world but just give it a try. Like I said we are humans and not robots and after our shift is over we are just like you a consumer.
a. Why do people look at us like we are stupid? I can assure you we are not because we've been doing this over a year (s) and we've been trained to do what we do. Plus, please don't repeat the order over and over again, I'm not deaf and again I know what I'm doing. (of course if we just started that's a whole other case and you should nod your head and "understand" he/she is new)
b. Just because you're having a shitty day, please don't take it out on us. We work for less than $10/hr and we are humans too. Whatever it may be: two hour meetings, your period, you fought with your bf/gf, can't find your iphone, whatever it may be, please try to understand we just make and serve coffee to you and that's really it. What if at YOUR office/work place someone takes their bad moods out on you? How would you feel? Exactly.
c. Because we are wearing uniform, we like to dress to the nine when we're not. I sometimes envy women who are dressed really nice because I wish I can do that. I guess that's why I go shopping even more and have my closet filled with more clothes I know I won't be wearing any time soon. Plus when we finally do go out for some fun it's like "omg what do we wear??" "i gotta look cute!" when we are just going to the movies, you know in the dark.
d. If we make a mistake it's because it was what it's called a mistake. We are humans, we can make a mistake sometimes. It's not earth shattering and we will have it fixed. Accidents happen and so will mistakes, no one is perfect and not every day is perfect. Again, think about yourself and ask yourself "Have I ever made a mistake at work?" "Have I made an error in judgment at work?". Please try not to be so hard on us, we're doing the best we can to accommodate to you.
These are things I wish others thought about too. I know, I know it's hard to think outside your own world but just give it a try. Like I said we are humans and not robots and after our shift is over we are just like you a consumer.
Monday, February 13, 2012
Healthy vs Hypochrondiac vs Stressed vs I need to relax
2012 is still fresh in our minds rights? I know no one says, "happy new years" anymore, but I still have my resolutions fresh in my mind.
I only have two things really: read a book per month (um will get on it) and continue to lose weight and be healthy.
I recently went to the doctor and two different docs told me I had high blood pressure. Now, that's not super surprising because my mother had very high bp and passed away from an aneurysm. What IS surprising is that I have it now at 30 and if it persists that I will need to take medications to control it. THAT sounds depressing at 30.
Then I start thinking and imagining all sorts of horrific scenarios played in my head. (Did I mention STRESS is a contributing factor to high bp?)
Will I be like my mom and have attack one day? Can I have children while I take these medications? Are there side effects with the bp medicines? Do I need a third opinion? This is paranoia and hypochondriac behavior, just ask Larry David
After calming down and trying not to think of terrible things, I've concluded 5 ways to de-stress yourself and 5 ways to be a healthier you.
Healthy You:
1. go get a check up. yes, you have to fast and take the morning off but this is preventative care, which means whatever problems you may have you can nip it in the bud in the early stage.
2. exercise 3-5 days a week, even if it's just 30-40 minutes.
3. take your vitamins! Fish Oil is probably the best all around vitamins out there, but a good multi-vitamin is probably what you need.
4. it's okay to indulge a few times a week. BUT just one serving and that's it. put it away! whatever it may be, but let's try to stick with dark chocolate if we can.
5. go to bed, seriously i can't stress how important a good night sleep is; and not just for one night, but daily.
De-Stress Yourself:
1. write down in your ipad, notebook, journal, what have you everything that bothers you and stresses you out. you will feel a bit better. also when you read them and say them aloud and really think about it, it's probably not a big deal.
2. do one or two things for yourself. manicure, pedicure, massage, short (timed and budgeted) shopping trip, eating a cheeseburger (once), nap during the day!, close the door and listen to music alone, etc. seriously, you need TIME FOR YOURSELF.
3. go to your happy place. whether it's popping in a dvd you love to watch (I love the Office Space), going through an album, taking a bubble bath, taking a walk to your favorite park, baking something, etc.
4. not giving a fuck. i'm trying hard right now to become an "apathetic" person but it's hard. but sometimes you just need to say, "whatever". i mean in some situations, what CAN you really do? nothing. So, just don't think about it and say, "fuck it". or more eloquently, "we will cross that bridge when we come to it". I'm dealing with this #4
5. talk to someone. everyone needs a best friend who listens and is "on your side". you just need a bitchfest with someone that's all. men don't understand this and instead work out, fuck, or eat. Women have girlfriends and gossip wickedly. Yup, that's right talk with someone who again, LISTENS and nods her head and says, "yup, that bitch is crazy" (that part was from Chris Rock)
Everyone deals with staying healthy and stress-free differently. There is no "one" answer, but I hope my suggestions helps you take a deep breath, relax, and not worry about the next thing so soon.
I only have two things really: read a book per month (um will get on it) and continue to lose weight and be healthy.
I recently went to the doctor and two different docs told me I had high blood pressure. Now, that's not super surprising because my mother had very high bp and passed away from an aneurysm. What IS surprising is that I have it now at 30 and if it persists that I will need to take medications to control it. THAT sounds depressing at 30.
Then I start thinking and imagining all sorts of horrific scenarios played in my head. (Did I mention STRESS is a contributing factor to high bp?)
Will I be like my mom and have attack one day? Can I have children while I take these medications? Are there side effects with the bp medicines? Do I need a third opinion? This is paranoia and hypochondriac behavior, just ask Larry David
After calming down and trying not to think of terrible things, I've concluded 5 ways to de-stress yourself and 5 ways to be a healthier you.
Healthy You:
1. go get a check up. yes, you have to fast and take the morning off but this is preventative care, which means whatever problems you may have you can nip it in the bud in the early stage.
2. exercise 3-5 days a week, even if it's just 30-40 minutes.
3. take your vitamins! Fish Oil is probably the best all around vitamins out there, but a good multi-vitamin is probably what you need.
4. it's okay to indulge a few times a week. BUT just one serving and that's it. put it away! whatever it may be, but let's try to stick with dark chocolate if we can.
5. go to bed, seriously i can't stress how important a good night sleep is; and not just for one night, but daily.
De-Stress Yourself:
1. write down in your ipad, notebook, journal, what have you everything that bothers you and stresses you out. you will feel a bit better. also when you read them and say them aloud and really think about it, it's probably not a big deal.
2. do one or two things for yourself. manicure, pedicure, massage, short (timed and budgeted) shopping trip, eating a cheeseburger (once), nap during the day!, close the door and listen to music alone, etc. seriously, you need TIME FOR YOURSELF.
3. go to your happy place. whether it's popping in a dvd you love to watch (I love the Office Space), going through an album, taking a bubble bath, taking a walk to your favorite park, baking something, etc.
4. not giving a fuck. i'm trying hard right now to become an "apathetic" person but it's hard. but sometimes you just need to say, "whatever". i mean in some situations, what CAN you really do? nothing. So, just don't think about it and say, "fuck it". or more eloquently, "we will cross that bridge when we come to it". I'm dealing with this #4
5. talk to someone. everyone needs a best friend who listens and is "on your side". you just need a bitchfest with someone that's all. men don't understand this and instead work out, fuck, or eat. Women have girlfriends and gossip wickedly. Yup, that's right talk with someone who again, LISTENS and nods her head and says, "yup, that bitch is crazy" (that part was from Chris Rock)
Everyone deals with staying healthy and stress-free differently. There is no "one" answer, but I hope my suggestions helps you take a deep breath, relax, and not worry about the next thing so soon.
Sunday, November 27, 2011
Curb your appetite over the holidays
So, November is coming to an end and I haven't lost a single pound. But oddly enough, I'm okay with that. This Thanksgiving weekend I tried on my old pants (size 10 and 8) and they fit. The 10 fits perfectly and size 8 is a bit tight but I think if I lose 5-7 pounds it will fit nicely. My goal is to be a size 6 or 4.
With the holidays in full swing, everything from office parties to dinners out with friends here's what you can try to do so you can enjoy the food and not over do it.
1. When you get up, hit the gym. I know, it's fucking cold/misty and you don't want to go, but go. You will feel a lot better. Even if it's only 30 mins it's really better than nothing and you will feel better, trust me.
2. If you are having a holiday party/get-together at night, try to have a light lunch such as a salad and fruits or something like that. I say this b/c let's face it, when you go to that restaurant you WILL be eating the good stuff; which is out of your control (restaurant's love butter, sauces, and salt) and the only thing you can control is to have a small portion. You don't want to look like a skinny bitch by saying, "oh I don't want this and that" during dinner with your boss and co-workers. So, that's why have the light lunch and eat the dinner. BUT don't get seconds or anything of that sort.
3. DO limit yourself on the alcohol. (I don't drink, only b/c I really can't handle much). That is just "empty" calories you're adding more on. They say one to two drinks is perfect. Keep drinking water to curb yourself.
4. Then go home, remove make up, brush teeth, and go to bed. Don't worry so much what you ate or anything just go to sleep. Everyone should be getting 6-8 hours of sleep.
5. The next day have a light dinner and if you can go to the gym twice (one cardio, one weights) If you can't/don't want to go to they gym twice then go to the mall, ice skating, window shopping, anything out of your house and keep moving. Again, it's better than just sitting on the couch all day.
6. If you and your friends ARE planning stuff, try pot luck dinners (b/c then you have control what's going in) or meet for a late lunch. It is much better for you to have a big breakfast or big lunch rather than a big dinner and then crashing at 10pm. So do try to get together during the day rather than night.
7. And finally this sounds mean but if you are a social butterfly and you're invited to 20 different things, you MUST choose. You cannot go to all of those events and gorge because I'm telling ya you WILL gain weight. Slowly, but you will gain it back. So you need to choose.
8. And the most important thing: enjoy the holidays and the great food. You don't need to be diet Nazi all the time, I mean it IS the holidays right? Just balance it with healthy meals before or after, portion control, continue going to the gym, and keep moving (walking, skiing, jogging, etc).
Have a great holiday!
With the holidays in full swing, everything from office parties to dinners out with friends here's what you can try to do so you can enjoy the food and not over do it.
1. When you get up, hit the gym. I know, it's fucking cold/misty and you don't want to go, but go. You will feel a lot better. Even if it's only 30 mins it's really better than nothing and you will feel better, trust me.
2. If you are having a holiday party/get-together at night, try to have a light lunch such as a salad and fruits or something like that. I say this b/c let's face it, when you go to that restaurant you WILL be eating the good stuff; which is out of your control (restaurant's love butter, sauces, and salt) and the only thing you can control is to have a small portion. You don't want to look like a skinny bitch by saying, "oh I don't want this and that" during dinner with your boss and co-workers. So, that's why have the light lunch and eat the dinner. BUT don't get seconds or anything of that sort.
3. DO limit yourself on the alcohol. (I don't drink, only b/c I really can't handle much). That is just "empty" calories you're adding more on. They say one to two drinks is perfect. Keep drinking water to curb yourself.
4. Then go home, remove make up, brush teeth, and go to bed. Don't worry so much what you ate or anything just go to sleep. Everyone should be getting 6-8 hours of sleep.
5. The next day have a light dinner and if you can go to the gym twice (one cardio, one weights) If you can't/don't want to go to they gym twice then go to the mall, ice skating, window shopping, anything out of your house and keep moving. Again, it's better than just sitting on the couch all day.
6. If you and your friends ARE planning stuff, try pot luck dinners (b/c then you have control what's going in) or meet for a late lunch. It is much better for you to have a big breakfast or big lunch rather than a big dinner and then crashing at 10pm. So do try to get together during the day rather than night.
7. And finally this sounds mean but if you are a social butterfly and you're invited to 20 different things, you MUST choose. You cannot go to all of those events and gorge because I'm telling ya you WILL gain weight. Slowly, but you will gain it back. So you need to choose.
8. And the most important thing: enjoy the holidays and the great food. You don't need to be diet Nazi all the time, I mean it IS the holidays right? Just balance it with healthy meals before or after, portion control, continue going to the gym, and keep moving (walking, skiing, jogging, etc).
Have a great holiday!
Thursday, October 27, 2011
Texas: The land of ever expanding number of restuarants
I work for a sign company in Dallas and I always am curious on what are next project will be. It's no surprise that it's another restaurant or burger joint or pizza place. In fact, I would say that is about 70% of our clients are in the food industry.
On the weekends when I'm driving around I notice so many new restaurants that open up (and close) all the time. Here in the south it's really a repeat of 4 types of food that open up constantly: Tex-Mex, Pizza/Italian, Burger joints, and if you have more money sushi restuarants (quality and you need fancy interior, plus you're catering to white people). And it starts to all sound alike too: tico's tacos, pancho's enchiladas, joe's pizza, vino's italian cafe, sarku japan house, sharku sushi, etc.
Why are there so many restaurants and eateries being opened? Do we REALLY need another pizza joint? Is there a difference in one Tex-Mex restaurant to another? (don't most salsas taste alike?) Who invented the "dragon roll"?
The answer is it's because Americans want it, look for it, and really there's not much "to do" except to go out with significant others, families, and friends and eat and laugh over a delicious pizza pie.
Long ago (and when I mean this I mean about 30 plus years ago) there were not many restaurants or even fast food joints around. We didn't have many different fare like Indian or Thai or Greek. Going out to eat was for celebratory reasons and special occasions. Plus there were just a handful of choices (can imagine a time where it was ONLY McDonalds as your fast food choice?)
Now it's everything from elegant, fine dining to pizzas to Korean bbq to Puerto Rican cuisine and Indian buffets, Asian fusion and so on and so forth. Everyone is a "foodie" these days, we all "love" to eat, everyone is taking out their smart phones and taking pictures of this duck and that french onion fennel soup and this homemade pie, etc. We all love a good food porn.
I also like to see the trend in food change and follow where it's going. First it was cupcakes and now yogurt. First it was sushi/Thai food, now it's Korean, Indian, and Eastern European cuisine. Many people are not looking for "fancy" but more rustic and "country style". Plus there's a lot of up-and-coming chefs right out of culinary schools or t.v. shows that are pushing the boundaries and opening (and closing) restaurants too.
And of course going out to eat usually means spending more money than you should and of course gaining weight. But it's become such a natural way for people to get together that not many of us think about limiting the number of times we should go out.
I am at the point where I have reached several "key points" in my life since I've started dieting.
1. **this one is because I'm lucky I have to admit** Because my huband cooks, I just tell him to cook some good stuff over the weekend or try a new recipe. Isn't the food made from your own kitchen the best?
2. we try not to go out much to eat at restaurants b/c after two entrees, a drink, and maybe a dessert, tip and tax it's 60 bucks! I've gotten where I've become stingie spending that much! (unless it's birthday and anniversary)
3. if i can try to arrange this more often i would, and it 's called potluck dinner. you spend less, try other people's food, and it's a good way to socialize.
Being an ex-Yelper (I'll be back '12) I want to try more ethnic cuisines and eagerly wait for the next greatest: pizza/burger/dessert/cool/need-to-try-this-now dish.
What is your idea of good food porn and why?
Geoff's Home made meatballs and suace on angel hair and Tortilla Soup
On the weekends when I'm driving around I notice so many new restaurants that open up (and close) all the time. Here in the south it's really a repeat of 4 types of food that open up constantly: Tex-Mex, Pizza/Italian, Burger joints, and if you have more money sushi restuarants (quality and you need fancy interior, plus you're catering to white people). And it starts to all sound alike too: tico's tacos, pancho's enchiladas, joe's pizza, vino's italian cafe, sarku japan house, sharku sushi, etc.
Why are there so many restaurants and eateries being opened? Do we REALLY need another pizza joint? Is there a difference in one Tex-Mex restaurant to another? (don't most salsas taste alike?) Who invented the "dragon roll"?
The answer is it's because Americans want it, look for it, and really there's not much "to do" except to go out with significant others, families, and friends and eat and laugh over a delicious pizza pie.
Long ago (and when I mean this I mean about 30 plus years ago) there were not many restaurants or even fast food joints around. We didn't have many different fare like Indian or Thai or Greek. Going out to eat was for celebratory reasons and special occasions. Plus there were just a handful of choices (can imagine a time where it was ONLY McDonalds as your fast food choice?)
Now it's everything from elegant, fine dining to pizzas to Korean bbq to Puerto Rican cuisine and Indian buffets, Asian fusion and so on and so forth. Everyone is a "foodie" these days, we all "love" to eat, everyone is taking out their smart phones and taking pictures of this duck and that french onion fennel soup and this homemade pie, etc. We all love a good food porn.
I also like to see the trend in food change and follow where it's going. First it was cupcakes and now yogurt. First it was sushi/Thai food, now it's Korean, Indian, and Eastern European cuisine. Many people are not looking for "fancy" but more rustic and "country style". Plus there's a lot of up-and-coming chefs right out of culinary schools or t.v. shows that are pushing the boundaries and opening (and closing) restaurants too.
And of course going out to eat usually means spending more money than you should and of course gaining weight. But it's become such a natural way for people to get together that not many of us think about limiting the number of times we should go out.
I am at the point where I have reached several "key points" in my life since I've started dieting.
1. **this one is because I'm lucky I have to admit** Because my huband cooks, I just tell him to cook some good stuff over the weekend or try a new recipe. Isn't the food made from your own kitchen the best?
2. we try not to go out much to eat at restaurants b/c after two entrees, a drink, and maybe a dessert, tip and tax it's 60 bucks! I've gotten where I've become stingie spending that much! (unless it's birthday and anniversary)
3. if i can try to arrange this more often i would, and it 's called potluck dinner. you spend less, try other people's food, and it's a good way to socialize.
Being an ex-Yelper (I'll be back '12) I want to try more ethnic cuisines and eagerly wait for the next greatest: pizza/burger/dessert/cool/need-to-try-this-now dish.
What is your idea of good food porn and why?
Wednesday, September 14, 2011
The Skinny on trying to be Skinny
Alright folks, you've probably seen my gym check-ins and FB updates regarding me trying to lose weigh. I'm telling you right now that this is a lifestyle change for me and I really do want to look prettier, feel better, and get healthier.
But of course after five in a half weeks, I start realizing/observing things and here's my lowdown on trying to lose weight.
1. DON'T look for an overnight change. To REALLY lose weight and lose weight for good (no yo yo dieting and fasting, etc) you really need to be patient and stop obsessing over the scale. It took you a few months to a year to gain weight, right? Welp, it's going to take few months to a year to really lose weight and see big differences. And not to mention doing it the healthy way.
2. When you are minimizing your calorie intake (portion control too) you become cranky and bitchy. Why? Well because you're denying yourself cupcakes, pizza, burgers, the usual handful of miniature snickers, alcohol, etc so of course you can't help but to feel irritable. What's the secret? Chew gum and drinks LOTS of water. That's really it. And just get up from the kitchen/table/cafeteria immediately and leave.
3. You see pretty girls with great bodies working out really hard and want to strangle them when they say, "Oh, gee I gained 2 pounds this weekend" or " Oh my God I'm so fat!" FUCK YOU. STOP with the self-pity/wanting a compliment. You know you God gave you great genes with a pretty face and great body, STOP FUCKING COMPLAINING.
4. You'll always have haters. They are basically jealous of you and love to see you fail. Just ignore them or tell them fuck off. Haters are gonna hate, but you just keep yourself busy with your work outs and eating right.
5. And finally, this is pretty obvious but I guess people still don't get it. You have GOT to eat better/healthier. You really cannot be eating burgers, pizza, Chinese food, mash potatoes, beers, etc 3-4 times a week and work out 6 days a week and wonder why you don't lose weight. If you are truly committed, you really do need to eat healthy/better. It's okay to have a cheat day or meals but it can't overtake your diet. Sure some people were born with fast metabolism or naturally skinny or whatever, but for us fatties you really need to work on the food.
I have seen progress (lost 6 pounds and inches off waist and hips) but I still have a long way to go. I am going to keep focused, keep trying, and just keep doing my thing. I hope in about a year's time I can take a picture in a teeny little bikini and post it up on my blog!
But of course after five in a half weeks, I start realizing/observing things and here's my lowdown on trying to lose weight.
1. DON'T look for an overnight change. To REALLY lose weight and lose weight for good (no yo yo dieting and fasting, etc) you really need to be patient and stop obsessing over the scale. It took you a few months to a year to gain weight, right? Welp, it's going to take few months to a year to really lose weight and see big differences. And not to mention doing it the healthy way.
2. When you are minimizing your calorie intake (portion control too) you become cranky and bitchy. Why? Well because you're denying yourself cupcakes, pizza, burgers, the usual handful of miniature snickers, alcohol, etc so of course you can't help but to feel irritable. What's the secret? Chew gum and drinks LOTS of water. That's really it. And just get up from the kitchen/table/cafeteria immediately and leave.
3. You see pretty girls with great bodies working out really hard and want to strangle them when they say, "Oh, gee I gained 2 pounds this weekend" or " Oh my God I'm so fat!" FUCK YOU. STOP with the self-pity/wanting a compliment. You know you God gave you great genes with a pretty face and great body, STOP FUCKING COMPLAINING.
4. You'll always have haters. They are basically jealous of you and love to see you fail. Just ignore them or tell them fuck off. Haters are gonna hate, but you just keep yourself busy with your work outs and eating right.
5. And finally, this is pretty obvious but I guess people still don't get it. You have GOT to eat better/healthier. You really cannot be eating burgers, pizza, Chinese food, mash potatoes, beers, etc 3-4 times a week and work out 6 days a week and wonder why you don't lose weight. If you are truly committed, you really do need to eat healthy/better. It's okay to have a cheat day or meals but it can't overtake your diet. Sure some people were born with fast metabolism or naturally skinny or whatever, but for us fatties you really need to work on the food.
I have seen progress (lost 6 pounds and inches off waist and hips) but I still have a long way to go. I am going to keep focused, keep trying, and just keep doing my thing. I hope in about a year's time I can take a picture in a teeny little bikini and post it up on my blog!
Tuesday, August 30, 2011
Service: It's a bitch but someone's gotta do it
So, if you know me at all, one of my biggest turn offs is bad service. Sometimes, I say to myself, "Is it really gonna kill you to put a fake smile on your face and take my order?"
Now before you judge and think I'm some kind of princess, I just want to state this:
If I'm going out and paying, I SHOULD get good service. Period. End of discussion.
Now what is good service you say?
1. Acting or showing that you're friendly with a smile. Now, you don't need to kiss my ass and tell me I'm pretty or give me a song and dance or shit like that. Just greet me, say a few customary things, and move on. Is that so hard? I know it's late or you might be having a shitty day, but how about just a smile and honestly, deal with it.
2. Re-fill my water or tea or coke, WITHOUT ASKING! This is probably the simplest thing to do!
3. Check in on us once or twice. Not 5 times and not zero times.
4. Don't push on stuff over and over and over again. If I just politely say, "no thank you" (now this is not necessarily in restaurants but really in clothing stores). After 4th time, I literally tell them loudly, "I'M NOT INTERESTED!"
5. Finally, just give me the check and allow me to check out. I hate waiting for the check, honestly after 10mins, I literally get up and go to the check out/cashier area and ask for my check.
If you're thinking about the fact I never worked in service you're wrong (I worked at Dunking Donuts in college). As a matter of fact, in a way, I still do because my job entails making my customers happy.
I value service greatly and great service will deserve a great tip. And lousy service, not so much. And I feel like I'm not asking you to put me on a pedestal, I'm just asking for a decent amount of respect while I'm dining out with my family or friends.
And finally, if you can't do you're job well, maybe that type of job isn't for you.
Now before you judge and think I'm some kind of princess, I just want to state this:
If I'm going out and paying, I SHOULD get good service. Period. End of discussion.
Now what is good service you say?
1. Acting or showing that you're friendly with a smile. Now, you don't need to kiss my ass and tell me I'm pretty or give me a song and dance or shit like that. Just greet me, say a few customary things, and move on. Is that so hard? I know it's late or you might be having a shitty day, but how about just a smile and honestly, deal with it.
2. Re-fill my water or tea or coke, WITHOUT ASKING! This is probably the simplest thing to do!
3. Check in on us once or twice. Not 5 times and not zero times.
4. Don't push on stuff over and over and over again. If I just politely say, "no thank you" (now this is not necessarily in restaurants but really in clothing stores). After 4th time, I literally tell them loudly, "I'M NOT INTERESTED!"
5. Finally, just give me the check and allow me to check out. I hate waiting for the check, honestly after 10mins, I literally get up and go to the check out/cashier area and ask for my check.
If you're thinking about the fact I never worked in service you're wrong (I worked at Dunking Donuts in college). As a matter of fact, in a way, I still do because my job entails making my customers happy.
I value service greatly and great service will deserve a great tip. And lousy service, not so much. And I feel like I'm not asking you to put me on a pedestal, I'm just asking for a decent amount of respect while I'm dining out with my family or friends.
And finally, if you can't do you're job well, maybe that type of job isn't for you.
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